It's a simple question. What is important to you? There are many ways to answer this of course because you could consider this from different parts of your life. What's important to you in terms of your children, your family, your marriage, your career, your own happiness. I ask this question more from the big picture perspective and morals, standards and codes of ethics. Think about what you expect from people around you.
What are you willing to tolerate? What is it that you cannot tolerate without question?
For me, one of the most important things I expect from people, in fact, it's probably the number one thing - HONESTY.
I believe that honesty is best in all cases. Lies are lies. Little white lies are still lies. Lies hurt other people - there's no way around that. I believe that you should be honest even if the truth will hurt. If the truth will hurt, be gentle with it, be caring but tell it.
Lies have a way of growing and they can take on life of their own. One lie is the seed to a potentially long vine. Don't plant the seed. We teach our kids not to lie, we have been taught not to lie, yet people lie all the time. It's as though lying is the norm. It's as though we think it's ok to lie because we can just say we are sorry and everything will be healed. While that's sometimes the case, the pain has already been felt.
Once you do lie to someone, how can you be trusted again? It plants the seed of mistrust. People who lie about things they've done knew they were wrong and that created the seed. Don't do it.
Telling the truth is more difficult than telling a lie but anything worthwhile is tough. If you know me, know this - tell me the truth. I can take it. I'll respect you more for it.
It's me, just trying to get by.